Negotiating Through a Conflict Situation

As an adolescent, what do you need to understand, remember, and do when dealing with conflict? Keep in mind the following steps when trying to negotiate or resolve a personal conflict.

1. Understand the nature at the conflict

Is the conflict caused by somebody else's behaviour? Were you expectations met? Did the person promise you something but did not fulfill it? Did someone fail to uphold something very important and of value to you?

2. Acknowledge your feelings and emotions

Be aware of the stirrings of emotions within you. Express this in a constructive way like verbalizing the emotion with the other person.

3. Examine your relationship with this person

How important is your relationship with the person.

4. Clarify your intentions

Do you want to continue your relationship with this person or not? If yes, then proceed to undertake a dialogue. If not, decide if you want to keep the relationship or not.

5. If you wish to keep the relationship, have a talk with the person involved

Stating that you value your relationship and would like to express your feelings about what was done or not done to you, then ask for an explanation as to the other person's actions.

6. Once the dialogue is accomplished to your and the other person's mutual satisfaction, then grant a reconciliatory act

Like shaking hands or embracing each other. Grant or request for forgiveness or apology if necessary, then promise to move on