Time to Speak

     Today's education is different from the traditional, now we uses technologies to spread information.
     It is not just about chatting your friends and asking for help to view and leave some good comments, but it is about having a concern to your friend and letting them learn something through the use of this blogging flatform.

     This kind of activity is giving benefits to the students and also to the audience. The audience will visit our blog and help us to reach the minimum views and comments and at the same time, giving the audience some knowledge.

This lesson gave an answer to our parents question: "Ano bang napapala mo kakacomputer mo ha?"

Negotiating Through a Conflict Situation

As an adolescent, what do you need to understand, remember, and do when dealing with conflict? Keep in mind the following steps when trying to negotiate or resolve a personal conflict.

1. Understand the nature at the conflict

Is the conflict caused by somebody else's behaviour? Were you expectations met? Did the person promise you something but did not fulfill it? Did someone fail to uphold something very important and of value to you?

2. Acknowledge your feelings and emotions

Be aware of the stirrings of emotions within you. Express this in a constructive way like verbalizing the emotion with the other person.

3. Examine your relationship with this person

How important is your relationship with the person.

4. Clarify your intentions

Do you want to continue your relationship with this person or not? If yes, then proceed to undertake a dialogue. If not, decide if you want to keep the relationship or not.

5. If you wish to keep the relationship, have a talk with the person involved

Stating that you value your relationship and would like to express your feelings about what was done or not done to you, then ask for an explanation as to the other person's actions.

6. Once the dialogue is accomplished to your and the other person's mutual satisfaction, then grant a reconciliatory act

Like shaking hands or embracing each other. Grant or request for forgiveness or apology if necessary, then promise to move on

Stages of Conflict

Conflict can happen anywhere whenever there are people. Conflict may also involve just yourself, such as not being able to decide whether to study or not for a test just so you can be with your friends, or getting into conflict with the law. Conflict also happens between groups and nations. According to the United Nations Economic and Social Commissions for Asia and the Pacific(ESCAP) publication on Conflict Negotiation Skills for Youth (2003), there are four stages of conflict that do not necessarily happen exclusively at any single time, but may happen simultaneously.

1. Intrapersonal - with oneself, like when one is indecisive about things.

2. Interpersonal - among two or more individuals, like having a misunderstandin betweem friends, family members, or lovers.

3. Intragroup - within the same interest group, like a student organization.

4. Intergroup - between two or more groups, like fraternities.